“Mommy! (insert ANY name) Hit me today at school.” Have you heard this complaint before? How about “She called me a bad name?” Today a friend of mine shared a post of a conversation that displayed that “Likeness” =hurt. We both feel the same way about the conversation. It has become very apparent that adults tend to tell children that if a child of the opposite sex hits them or calls them names, that the other child likes them. Every single time.
Child: He/She Hit me!
Adult: He/She just likes you! Don’t pay it any attention!
This message is given to children at such an early age. They are conditioned to believe that this is normal behavior. They grow up to believe that love means to get hit or called a name. It doesn’t. The reality is, it’s not cute. It’s not normal behavior. It’s abuse.
Statistics show that eighty-one (81) percent of parents believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it’s an issue. Though a huge number it isn’t very shocking, since people have been conditioned from birth to believe that love should hurt, especially when you are young!
Y’all, this is damaging. This is a set up. Why must we have our children believe that it is ok for others to hit them or speak to them poorly? It’s Not Ok.
Remember that not all abuse is in the form of hitting. Have you ever been in a relationship where you believed that you were “the crazy one” all the time? Yeah? That’s called gaslighting? Have you ever sat in a room after being talked to? Yeah? Well, we’ll put that under Verbal and Emotional Abuse.
We expect our children to know the difference as they grow older. But how? How can we expect them to understand that being in an abusive relationship doesn’t equate love? We’ve taught them that it does.
I could go on and on about this subject but I would love to hear your thoughts!